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Change the way...

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."­  Wayne Dyer: Self-development author and speaker

Law Of The Garbage Truck

Many people are like garbage trucks.
They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.
As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.
Don't take it personally.
Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.
Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so...Love the people who treat you right.
Pray for the ones who don't.Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!
Have a blessed, garbage-free day!

Don't just let it blow over...

Here's the question...

"Sometimes, I just want to keep the peace, not rock the boat and just let things get better or blow over. I don't want to argue, fight and stay mad all the time like I was in my previous relationship. Is this a good thing?"
We can certainly understand the desire to keep the peace in any relationship, especially when a previous one was filled with conflict and anger.
Peace, no matter what the cost, can look pretty good after years of constant fighting.
While letting things "blow over" can seem like the answer to keeping a relationship peaceful (and in some cases, it can be), it might not always be the answer and here's why...
If you feel that you are never able to say what you are thinking or feeling without creating continuing conflict and you have to agree to keep the peace, there are usually consequences and they can happen in a couple of ways...

--Resentment is created and comes out against other people and in other situations that you didn't intend.
--Physical and emotional problems can manifest in your body.

Are we saying the you never let issues that come up just work themselves out or let them "blow over"?
Of course not.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself when considering whether to "rock the boat" or not...

1. How important is this issue to me?
2. Is there really a problem if the other person has another perspective on this than mine?
3. Is this any of my business or am I trying to control the situation for other people?
4. Am I insisting that my way is better or is there another way that might work as well?
5. What's the possible outcome of this situation one week from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now if I don't address this issue and leave it alone?
6. If I don't address this issue, what physical or emotional problems might I create for myself?
7. How can I listen to the other person and understand his or her point of view?

Part of it has to do with your attitude and intentions.
If you are fearing an argument and you brace yourself for one, that's what you'll probably get.
If your heart is open, you're open to listening and you have the attitude of "let's make this work for both of us," you just might get cooperation or a solution that works for both of you.

What can you reverse in your relationship that can make a difference in your life?
No matter how close and connected you are with your partner, we're willing to bet there are some things you can reverse quickly and easily and make things much better, starting today.

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http://www.PassionateHeart.com, http://www.RelationshipGold.com, http://www.RedHotLoveRelationships.com, http://www.collinspartners.com, http://www.HowToHealYourBrokenHeart.com , http://www.StayorGo.com,
http://www.RelationshipAttractorFactor.com, http://www.RelationshipTrust.com, http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com,
http://www.Communication-Magic.com, http://www.PersonalGrowthPlanet.com, http://www.12ProvenSecrets.com,
http://www.PerfectPartnerNow.com, http://www.Think-Right-Now.com

The Human Voice

Book Excerpt:  Welcome Home to Yourself - By Suzanne Kyra, MA; Nathan Derksen, BSc

The Human Voice
 The voice of a loved one who has passed away is the one I long for the most.  To hear that voice again would be the greatest music to my heart and ear.  The human voice has such ability to awaken us, heal, and love.
The human voice connects us to our need for relationship. The voice of others brings a flood of memories, reassurance, or trepidation. The human voice has such ability to awaken us, heal, and love. We all understand how the voice of one we love can be perceived as precious. We are aware of the power and perfection in the voice, and the need to use it carefully and kindly. The voice has the capacity to express and share our truth. When uncertain what to say, ask yourself what you think you would say 60 years from now, and your loved ones are no longer here beside you. Sometimes it takes hindsight to gain insight when called to find our voice.
I Have Learned
...that the human voice is powerful in its ability to soothe or irritate. Sometimes I forget its potency. The thought that I can carry the vibrations that communicate my inner consciousness to others amazes me. The inaudible voice beneath my speaking voice is the most tender and efficient bridge of communication linking me to others. It allows me to intricately communicate my instincts, emotions, and feelings. There are many voices we can experiment with in learning the art of authentically and clearly communicating ourselves, while dropping all pretences.
Musings on the Human Voice, With Interest
When we become interested in voices, we make an investment to enrich our lives. Whose voice causes you to feel the greatest endearment, joy, and tenderness? How often do you use your voice to hum, whistle, or sing? When do you do it? How does it feel? What are your happiest memories of using your voice to speak a courageous truth?
To live with dignity, voice your truth and speak it with authenticity and integrity. Your voice is a great gift to use wisely. Experiment with ways your voice can bring you connection, comfort, confidence, pleasure, and joy. Making this a daily practice will develop your ability to speak without holding any part of yourself back for fear of losing connection. Enjoy searching for ways to use your voice to express respect for yourself and others.
About the Authors:
Ms. Kyra fulfills her professional calling as a Registered Clinical Counselor, speaking internationally, leading workshops, consulting, providing clinical supervision for Simon Fraser University Psychology Clinic, and maintaining a private practice. She lives with her husband and younger son in the midst of British Columbia's natural beauty. Nathan Derksen is a gifted photographer. As a Simon Fraser University graduate, he works for an international company as a Web Architect. Nathan also shares his expertise as an international speaker and author of a technical book on computer design. He lives with his wife and son in Vancouver.
This is an excerpt from "Welcome Home to Yourself," a beautiful, insightful 128-page photo journal written by Suzanne Kara with photography by Nathan Derksen. Buy the book and receive an abundance of gifts! Go to http://www.suzannekyra.com/

No Regrets...

Drink deeply of the Life that presents itself to you. Let no missed opportunity ever haunt you.
Let no regrets ever steal your sleep at night.
Trust in the magnificence of the mysterious path upon which you find yourself, and move forward courageously into the Great Unknown.

You win, when you aren't afraid to lose

The difference between great and average is how often you take risks.
Accept risk as a normal part of living.
View risk as a part of the process of exploring your world.
Make note of the lessons you learn
with each chance you take and move on.

Forget about the consequences of taking chances.
Risk opens you to only a temporary change in direction
that can set you straight for your next success.

If you're brave enough to risk,
to temporarily live outside of your comfort zone,
for a short period of time, you're big enough to win.

Raise your awareness

  "Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts."   -- Albert Einstein

Take awareness to new levels.
Explore experiencing yourself in the act of being aware.
Be aware of awareness itself.
To do this, we need to go beyond our old mechanical patterns, compulsions and rejections.
We need to uproot the arrogance of ego.
Higher awareness is conscious of spirit and form working together.
We must be conscious and present within before we can tune in to the guidance of our soul.
Develop awareness to hear the subtlest whispers of intuition through your thoughts, feelings and sensations.

"Most of us are in touch with our intuition whether we know it or not, but we're usually in the habit of doubting or contradicting it so automatically that we don't even know it has spoken."   -- Shakti Gawain

Master life, Don't let it master you!

Some people are successful in mastering life, while others permit life to master them.
There is a split in you that is very clear.
There is part of you that knows what you should do, and a part of you that does what it feels like doing.
Don't let passion drive you, let reason hold the reins.
Once you understand these opposing forces warring within you, with this knowledge of the truth: you no longer remain a slave.
A clear understanding of this will make you the master of your life.
Resistance is your thoughts transformed into feelings.
Change the thoughts that create the resistance, and there is no more resistance.
Are you controlled by your thoughts or are you controlling your thoughts?
If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.
If you are ruled by your mind you are a king, if by your body, a slave.

If you wish to know...

"If you wish to know the mind of a man, listen to his words."   -- Chinese Proverb

What passes over your lips each day?
Are your words typically negative, critical, gossiping, deceptive, illusory, justifying, blaming, manipulative and argumentative?
Are they more uplifting, inspirational, positive, questioning, beautiful, loving, universal, truthful, accepting and supportive?
The throat is our center of expression.
Who we are sneaks out in our attitudes and in what we say.

"Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs."  
-- Pearl Strachan Hurd
"The wise weigh their words on a scale with gold."   -- Bible

We can't escape

"Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them."   -- Orison Swett Marden

We can't escape problems and negativity.
Escaping just brings denial and suppression - we continue to carry the problem with us.
Ironically, it is our lack of acceptance and resistance to the problem that creates the pain.
Resistance builds up an energy wall or block that, if not discharged, gets suppressed into the body.
These blocks identify places where we have not enough understanding or love.

For health, we must work through what we seek to avoid.
How do we do this?
We can love parts of ourselves that we don't like.
We can seek the lessons we are being invited to learn through the problem.
We can examine our beliefs and seek to see different perspectives and a bigger picture.
As our perspectives grow, more of life makes sense and has meaning.

"The Lord is a good psychologist: he knows the way our minds run. Turmoil can be the Lord's way of tapping us on the shoulder and saying, 'Don't forget me.'"   -- Eknath Easwaran