"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer: Self-development author and speaker
Many people are like garbage trucks.
They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.
As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.
Don't take it personally.
Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.
Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so...Love the people who treat you right.
Pray for the ones who don't.Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!
Have a blessed, garbage-free day!
Here's the question...
"Sometimes, I just want to keep the peace, not rock the boat and just let things get better or blow over. I don't want to argue, fight and stay mad all the time like I was in my previous relationship. Is this a good thing?"
We can certainly understand the desire to keep the peace in any relationship, especially when a previous one was filled with conflict and anger.
Peace, no matter what the cost, can look pretty good after years of constant fighting.
While letting things "blow over" can seem like the answer to keeping a relationship peaceful (and in some cases, it can be), it might not always be the answer and here's why...
If you feel that you are never able to say what you are thinking or feeling without creating continuing conflict and you have to agree to keep the peace, there are usually consequences and they can happen in a couple of ways...
--Resentment is created and comes out against other people and in other situations that you didn't intend.
--Physical and emotional problems can manifest in your body.
Are we saying the you never let issues that come up just work themselves out or let them "blow over"?
Of course not.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself when considering whether to "rock the boat" or not...
1. How important is this issue to me?
2. Is there really a problem if the other person has another perspective on this than mine?
3. Is this any of my business or am I trying to control the situation for other people?
4. Am I insisting that my way is better or is there another way that might work as well?
5. What's the possible outcome of this situation one week from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now if I don't address this issue and leave it alone?
6. If I don't address this issue, what physical or emotional problems might I create for myself?
7. How can I listen to the other person and understand his or her point of view?
Part of it has to do with your attitude and intentions.
If you are fearing an argument and you brace yourself for one, that's what you'll probably get.
If your heart is open, you're open to listening and you have the attitude of "let's make this work for both of us," you just might get cooperation or a solution that works for both of you.
What can you reverse in your relationship that can make a difference in your life?
No matter how close and connected you are with your partner, we're willing to bet there are some things you can reverse quickly and easily and make things much better, starting today.
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The Human Voice
Drink deeply of the Life that presents itself to you. Let no missed opportunity ever haunt you.
Let no regrets ever steal your sleep at night.
Trust in the magnificence of the mysterious path upon which you find yourself, and move forward courageously into the Great Unknown.
Accept risk as a normal part of living.
View risk as a part of the process of exploring your world.
Make note of the lessons you learn
with each chance you take and move on.
Forget about the consequences of taking chances.
Risk opens you to only a temporary change in direction
that can set you straight for your next success.
If you're brave enough to risk,
to temporarily live outside of your comfort zone,
for a short period of time, you're big enough to win.
Take awareness to new levels.
"Most of us are in touch with our intuition whether we know it or not, but we're usually in the habit of doubting or contradicting it so automatically that we don't even know it has spoken." -- Shakti Gawain
There is a split in you that is very clear.
There is part of you that knows what you should do, and a part of you that does what it feels like doing.
Don't let passion drive you, let reason hold the reins.
Once you understand these opposing forces warring within you, with this knowledge of the truth: you no longer remain a slave.
A clear understanding of this will make you the master of your life.
Resistance is your thoughts transformed into feelings.
Change the thoughts that create the resistance, and there is no more resistance.
Are you controlled by your thoughts or are you controlling your thoughts?
If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.
If you are ruled by your mind you are a king, if by your body, a slave.
What passes over your lips each day?
Are your words typically negative, critical, gossiping, deceptive, illusory, justifying, blaming, manipulative and argumentative?
The throat is our center of expression.
"Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." -- Pearl Strachan Hurd
"The wise weigh their words on a scale with gold." -- Bible
We can't escape problems and negativity.
For health, we must work through what we seek to avoid.
"The Lord is a good psychologist: he knows the way our minds run. Turmoil can be the Lord's way of tapping us on the shoulder and saying, 'Don't forget me.'" -- Eknath Easwaran